Ever walked into a room after someone has had a fight and thought I could cut the air with a knife? We have all experienced situations like this when the room feels so heavy and the air feels tangible.
What this is explaining is the phenomenon of communication and that communication is only 10% verbal. Sounds ridiculous really considering we all talk every day all the time and talking in person wasn't even enough we had to invent other ways to talk like telephones, mobile phones, email, texting, skyping and so on.
But it has been proven that verbal communication is only 10% of the entire way we communication. Body language takes up a small part as well but most of it is largely energy. How we perceive someone is not done through the eyes but how we "feel" about them.
Have you ever had the experience of not liking someone instantly even though you know nothing about them? This often happens as when your energy connects with theirs and instant dislike occurs but the brain hasn't caught up yet. The brain is saying you don't even know that person or making up excuses that they look like "that" type of person and that's why you don't like them.
But how do you know you don't like them? Think about it, how do you know when you like someone. Within a few seconds of meeting someone or seeing someone (not even talking to them) we have established if we like them, do we find them attractive and what sex they are (male or female). When you notice someone from across the room or on the train you haven't spoken to that person but you still know whether you would like to speak to them.
This is because all of the so called dialogue is happening energetically and sometimes our opinions are warranted and other times when you talk to the person you might find you got the wrong impression of them.
So it's important to consider what you are thinking about others is what they are getting from you. If you are judging others but pretending on the outside not to be, people will still be picking this up from you. The same if you feel you are not good enough, that's what you put out there in your non verbal communication and that's the message that people get.
So take the time to think about what you're putting out there and you'll find it makes a big difference to your life.
Originally published on Oct 24, 2011
